Losing And Finding Oneself: Here Is Something To Help You With It


Have you ever heard of people saying this? “I am so lost in my life.”

Have you ever got out of place while trying to reach a particular destination? Just give it a minute to think about what you did? You asked a random stranger to guide you, isn’t it? Or you tried to figure out and discover the easy way out all by yourself with few hints. So how did you feel, when you reached the destination? Happy and you felt like you conquered something, right?

It is common for everybody to feel lost on the way to find the purpose of life. In real life, those random strangers are self-help books, podcasts and real-life incidents that guide you and make you feel safe. But in the end, it is you. You need to create a passageway to reach where you want to go.

There comes a time in life, where everything seems to fall apart. Every situation you encounter in your life is in the form of a maze.

If you need to exist it, you need to track down your way out. Before that, you also need to know that the best stories of happy and successful lives have come from good amazing mazes. 

Now, what would you do, if you were in a maze? Of course, you would start discovering it.

Similarly, when you find yourself lost in different aspects of life, you need to sit down and calmly self understand what you feel and think about it.  Along with many questions, you will see more solutions arise.

Get back to the maze now.

You start to feel confused because there are too many options for you to choose to espace the maze. Is it necessary that you need to be lucky and be fortunate enough to succeed in it in the first go? Why not a second time or a third time? Even if it is going to take forever, you should be determined to exit it.

In the process, you need to understand those years of social conditioning that buried your true inner self during childhood by offering a mask to conform to the rest. Every individual’s truth is layered. And it is the responsibility of that particular person to unfold it. Sometimes, you might be hard on yourself. You can see yourself judging or someone criticising you. But don’t let the fear hold you back.

Early morning the first message that popped on my Instagram was this, “What do we do? It is very hard to find someone who can understand us. Whoever we come across tries to makes us understand their point of view.” 

We can’t do anything about it. We need to ignore and stay untouched by their opinions and perspectives. Regularly, reflect on how far you have come and how far you can go. While you are running, gasping and eagerly searching in the maze, many choose to quit. And you faced and endured everything when some procrastinated. So you are already going to win the battle by quitting the maze.

Right now, you might be stuck in your maze. It is hard. But why don’t you challenge yourself? See how far you can go. You, yes, you can do it. Virtually I am patting your back and cheering for you. Go ahead.

Once Bonnie Zackson Koury said, “Be who you are, and find yourself so you can be your own person and enjoy life with no regret.”

PS: Comment below, what you feel about this? And what are your thoughts? I would love to read them. Have a great day ahead.



  1. K P Tejas Rao

    May 27, 2021 at 5:26 am

    Hey, Ramya. This one is really great!!

    • Ramya Velu

      May 30, 2021 at 8:17 am

      Thank you, Tejas! 🙂

  2. Abi

    May 27, 2021 at 9:24 am

    Yes I feel like I’m in a maze I over think at times but still can’t figure out a way out of it I’m tryin so hard . And yes I hav gone through a breakup recently I’m not able to come out of it seein her with someone else Is ruining my whole taught. And irony is that everyday I get prepared to see one post or story of her mentioning another guy idk y I do that I watch it every with my fake account and get hurt n keep thinking about everything happening in and around me . I badly wanna come out this phase I started to read books and keeping myself busy but in the end of the day it’s ful of her memories and then I think about my life like where is ur heading to

    • Ramya Velu

      May 30, 2021 at 8:33 am

      Hey Abhi,
      Firstly, thank you so much for reaching out. And it is not very easy to be in your shoes. I understand, what is it like to go through a post break up phase. Also, you don’t necessarily have to figure a way out of it as soon as possible. Trying to escape a resentful emotion is a wrong choice. I request you to take time to feel and heal from it slowly. And be in the present and don’t worry about the future.
      I would request you to accept the bitter reality. Alongside, make sure to reflect the positives and negatives of it. Don’t be hard on yourself. You don’t have to go through so much.

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